Wednesday, January 27, 2010

Why does it matter? "The Jealous Woman"


I've noticed over my 22 years of living that yes women can be difficult, and i call myself a ladies man thinking i have them figured out. But as men we will never understand women. One thing i cant get a grip on is why do women get mad if they hear you are sleeping or talking to another woman if she doesn't belong to you? Is it because we had sex and u feel like we have something? do you feel i belong to you? if we don't have an understanding then why do you want to know where am i? why are you getting mad when you see me out at the club with other girls? I don't mean to sound mean but.. WE ARE NOT TOGETHER WE JUST HAD SEX THATS IT!!! gnr so ladies i ask... is it a territorial thing? just because you had sex with this man makes it feel ok to act out as a girlfriend? or is it that you like this man, and want him to change and settle down because YOU feel thats best. Or maybe thats just what you want. Answers from both Men and Women...... S.moss

63 comments:

MOSES said...

YO BOW PLAIN AND SIMPLE MAN WOMEN ARE WOMEN AND MEN ARE MEN.....WE'RE DIFFRENT....THEY ARE MORE SENSITIVE THEN MEN....ATLEAST SOME OF THE MEN....THEY GET ATTACHED WAY QUICKER THEN WE DO
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Msfablbw said...

This is 1 of my fav topics! Okay from a girls point of view, most of us get attached real quick. Yes u and ur "friend" may just be friends but you guys arent really doing friend things feel me lol..so to her, her reactions will be different. Ur kissin her, tellin her how pretty she is, spoiling her with love & gifts, I mean she's thinking she got u right where she wants u. But ur thinking, yeah right this is jus a day 2 day thing. You know in ur head its gonna end real soon but shes thinkin shes ur main 1. Next thing u know, she hears ur out clubbing and dating others! Dat shit is gonna get her tight cuz now she better watch out cuz u may go out n find some1 whose better then her n ull move on which is what always happens lol n den basically its a lose lose situation 4 her

Caroline Fine said...

Shad,
There is nothing wrong with "just having sex with a woman" and there be nothing else-if your dealings are with a REAL woman! 9 times out of 10, a real lady, won't give a flying fuck if you give her a call or not! FOR REAL! That's because she has her own agenda and you are just sex to her as well! But in extreme cases women do get overbearing (that's why I have NO lady friends)! It's like they want you to fall in love and settle down because they are head over heels for you! It's crazy because then they want you to do this and that- and hunt you down! I know...I am a woman to! But BABE, it's because of all the things you said! 1) They want love and with sex women have the tendacy to feel that attaches them to you(We are very EMOTIONAL creatures-know that!)
2) They like you or either something that you have- you become their scape goat!
3) RARE occasions will you meet a broad that has the best intentions for you- usually it's what's best for their self. SO that goes into your last question: It's usually for the woman's best interest and what they are ready for. Women are not that hard to figure out- either they have good intentions for you and will ride and die to the end, regardless of whether you want to be serious or not-understanding you and your needs and loving you regardless!!!!! OR..... they want what they want and could care less about you or anything than stands for you (which in turn produces negative behavior-jealous)!

What happened to people just kicking it and being friends first-with the possibility of sex and whatever happens-happens! Having real fun with each other and respecting each other. Not just seeking commitment and marriage off the bat!

sh3g0tam3answag said...

its all about emotions...some women fall to quickly mixing up lust with love geting to attached and having that little bit of hope that they are thee only one like ur main after the fact yall had sex...when reality is they just jump offs and they forgeting their place..its all about emotions...thats why its best to always be honest and let them know where yall stand :)
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alex said...

U a litte fool for sayin all this s**t. U just dont put urself in herlsef.

Try this: just imagine u meet somebody that u adore or u are a big fan, and he or she share something BIG with u (as sex), u would be so excited that u could get a wrong idea of what really happened. it is not about understanding women, not a women attitude but a human and understandable attitude.

Tasha Tattle said...

They get mad because you haven't made it clear to them that they are just a quick nut... so they get emotionally attached because you say all this shit to them (for the sake of the mood) that has them feeling on cloud 9. Then, it hurts them when you're seen out and about with other chicks, flirting on twitter with "every girl" e.t.c gnr.

Dudes think, "A to B." Like, you're thinking, "it's just sex."
But women are thinking much deeper than that.
Not all women though, im sure there are some women that understand the "no strings" attached rule, but some get too involved emotionally.
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it'sok2bu*nique* said...

omg...ummm...this was very informative and good to know. no man will probably admit this aloud.

i think we as women are more of bonding creatures. it has been scientifically proven that we bond quicker and longer than men. so even if you just kiss us we are naturally bonded to you. look up OXYTOCIN.

it goes back to the bible also. anytime a man and a woman had sex, it created a bond and a marrage so really when you have sex, you are marrying those girls and thats why they are so attached.

MizzCupcake said...

I cannot speak for all women but I just know personally from my experiences sex is not just casual. Alot of times woman even though they may say they have no intentions of being with you or catching feelings for you, anytime you have sex with them they share a bond with you, and no woman wants to feel like a piece of ass. And the same goes for men.. Whenever they have a girl they chill with and then she starts talkn to another guy it makes you guys feel a lil incompetent.. not all but some do.. its just a complex, just like women want to know what makes the other girl more special than her.. We are more alike then some like to acknowledge.. women just handle their emotions different than men.

natasha said...

well.....i just say: Live your life, do it your way...you did not signed any contract with any of your "sex frinends"!!? didnt you?..but it is true that some of them can get attached to you...because of your fame...because they wanna this "litlle part of/in it".... they want your money...because you attract them...they maybe finally captured something that "worths"...hi hi...:)
...but anyway...girls have brains to!!(can you imagine that?)...so those who dont understand the situation.....it would be better that you start to change your thinking!!..start to enjoy your life!! "you can not eat soup everyday"!! ...start to make your own fame...

Shells said...

WOW...well...in all honesty, I think women have a hard time seperating emotions, from the physical act. I think men are better at it. There are some women, that can actually do it, but I personally don't know many. Sex is serious, and someties we forget that. You can make life, or you can end a life with it. Being inside of someone's body is a very intimate act, because you are sharing yourself with that person. Some women don't share themselves with many people, so when they do...they want it to mean something special, and they have a hard time coping with the idea of you sharing with others, what you shared with them.

Also, women sometimes (men too) hear what they want to hear. You say "you're not my girlfriend," she hears "I'm not your girlfriend YET!" Women also ask questions, and then chose to interpret your answer however we want, like "are you sleeping with anyone else?" You answer "no" cause maybe in the MOMENT, you're not. Then, we as women operate like, "I'm not his girlfriend, but we're not sleeping with other people." YOU may not be sleeping with anyone else for a variety of reasons, none having to do with the young lady, but she's telling herself something different. Then, you start dating someone else, and feel like "you're not my girlfriend" was enough to justify your practice.

It all comes down to expectations. You have to define "you're not my girlfriend." You have to be like "I'm dating other people, I may sleep with other people, you may see me out with other girls, I'm not ready to be in a relationship with anyone. Having sex with me isn't going to change that, so are you cool with that?" LMAOOOOO! Good luck with that one!

fuck said...

honestly thats some bs..you know what you sayin and doing to them bitches to make them feel that way so dont get mad when they put all there cards on the table for you like yeah you the one..cuz your a player,man whore,"ladies man" shit call it what you want but you are slick with your words and u know what the hell your doing..advice for you is simply like this tell them bitches you just tryna fuck keep it real..then there wont be this issue and if there is the girl is just crazy and shouldnt have givin it up to ya whore ass in the first place knowin shes lookin for somethin realer that u obviously aint ready for..

Brooklyn Royale said...

Firstly, there should def be a mutual understanding that what happens is nothing more than a quick nut & roles in the other person's life need to be understood. That means no messing up friendships and no reaching for relationships. & yes a lot of girls are territorial, they wanna be the best dude has ever had or wanna feel like they left their mark so dude doesn't want any another female. But i've used dudes to get head all in the same *pardon my TMI* & they get just as paranoid & emotional so it's not a one sided thing, fellaz don't front... ^_^

reshma said...

IF THE GUY IS HOTTER THEN THE GIRL THEN THE GIRL IS GOING TO GET JEALOUS WHEN YOU ARE WITH OTHER WOMEN OR THE GIRL IS JUS OBSESSED WITH YOU.
JUS TELL THEM YOUR JUST THERE FOR SEX
or just get yourself a Prostitute

anniie said...

Once its just sex and you don't lead her on to beliveing that there is somthing more, then she has no right to be getting mad. But u also gotta relize that shorty may be feeling you way more than u think. It might just be sex to you, and a whole different thing to her. Ima girl and I date girls, and I'm still learning.

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golynne3 said...

Boy quit playin u only 22 u act like u been f@ckin since u came outta da womb!!..plz,lmao.
Anywho, if it's only a sexual relationship u seek than u needa express that to ur lady friend from jump. Don't be tryna spoil her wit shit and introduce her to momma, if she jus a jump off! Keep it real boo and u won't have to worry about them gettin jealous in the long run. And plz no sleep overs wit the jumpoffs cuz then u really gonna have a problem. BUT WHAT YA NEED TO DO IS GET YA LIL CUTE ASS A SERIOUS GIRL AND SIT YA LIL BOOTY DOWN SOMEWHERE OK!!!!

conklinsara82 said...

I think this can go both ways...I've seen it happen with men too! It happens when (in this case a women)a woman has strong feelings for you and wishes that they were with you. They gave in to sex because they thought (hoped) that it would lead to more. Especially in your status, girls know you probably won't put in much effort to get to know them, unless they give you something you want, sex! They feel that if you are interested in having sex with them, that you must like them and care for them. Your a rapper...Come on ladies! Will you ever really settle down with just one woman? Probably just pull a "Tiger" on us. It is always good to have hope though, and this is what it is. HOPE! You obviously mean more to them, then they mean to you.

Brioni Emmanuelle said...

There are a couple of different issues going on at the same time with this one. For the sake of NOT sounding like Dr. Phil I will say that as long as you make your intentions very clear before the sex happens - it shouldn't be an issue. But, you can't have sex and not address it - sex was designed to be a union/connection/bond between two people not the casual act we have turned it into. The very nature of it is deeper than the act itself. Even though us women are emotional, we're also very intelligent and all it takes is for you to tell us what's going on for us to comprehend. It's when you don't address it and leave room for assumptions that you have this problem.

LaTrece said...

Bow its like this...when a man shows a woman some affection she is either drawn to that or not. some women take that affection and create something that they hope will be. Sex to me is just that. SEX. no strings attached. we can have a ball and have great sex and not be labled to each other. but other women think differently. there is a huge difference between casual sex and intercourse. Ladies need to step there game up and get off that. If he don't come out and say you my baby then don't assume that is what he is thinkin. POINT MADE ??!!

Cha_boo01 said...

Bow ask urself this question is there anyway that u could be leading her on? If not then u have to understand these things women are emtionally creatures point blank you can't change that... it is what it is. Having said that some women or girls rather tend to get mix up in their emotions. for example if u are having sex with a girl she may confuse that with affection depend on her maturity. even if u both have an understanding that its just sex ....u can't just say oh we had an understanding bc she is going to get attach i mean thats how females are wired. My thing is ladies know ur self-worthy if a man just wants u for the physical its not worth it. A MAN CAN ONLY TREAT U THE WAY THAT U LET HIM TREAT U....REAL TALK! Bow i am not saying that u or her is in the wrong all i am saying is be wise. U r young and i know u r going to do what u want to do so all i am saying is choice those girls that don't mind be a slideline f8888 buddy. dont bring the ones in that u know in ur heart that will get emotionally attact. sum women dont mind be slidelines and sum are wifey type so WOMEN u should define what u want ur title to be. If she knew her title was slideline from the get go then she shouldnt think that u r going to change for her but the reality is that she is a women so it going to happen. i promise about 90% of women will show sumtype of jealous if they were in her situation....let just be real!

Cha_boo01 said...

bow hun u always talk about not having a girlfriend but they u go on this blog website and post this. Im going to let u know one thing ur not going to find the right women until u get ur act together .(i understand your young i am too but dont complain about not having a real women if thats not what ur ready for....just keeping it real). All these strippers, pros, xxl models u so called want to wife r going to put u though alot of pain if u choose to be with one of them bc they are "the worlds propety" mean they are all about the money translation they dont give an f*** about u ........u are a step on their ladder to sucessful .....real talk. i am not trying to be hard core or mean i just want u to open up ur eyes a little bit.......thats all boo. :)XOXO

Crystal Coutore said...

Im going to make it plain and simple all women arent the same but for the most part it is territorial because even thought you might have slept with her or been a good friend of hers, in her mind and heart,SHE WANTS YOU TO BE WITH HER, SHE REALLY LIKES YOU, SHE MAY BE IN LOVE WITH YOU DEPENDING ON HOW MUCH TIME YOU SPENT WITH HER AND HOW WELL YOU TREATED HER, SHE MIGHT NOT WANT TO SEE OR WANT YOU TO BE WITH ANYBODY ELSE BECAUSE SHE'S AFRAID SHE MIGTH LOOSE YOU OR MIGHT NOT BE INTERESTED IT HER ANYMORE. I THINK THAT IF SHE BE HERSELF AND SHOW HERSELF AND OTHERS WITH RESPECT MAYBE IN HIS MIND AND HEART SHE COULD BE CONSIDERED SOMEONE HE WOULD START DATING OR HAVE FEELINGS ABOUT HER, THINGS TAKE TIME, IF YOU AND THAT PERSON ARE MEANT TO BE, IT WILL SHOW, THAT'S MY OPINION, BUT IN YOUR MIND YOU WERE RIGHT, YOU JUST SECOND GUESSED YOURSELF,BECAUSE YOU WASN'T SURE, BUT YOU'RE RIGHT. : )

JuicyMa Outlet said...

Women ask themselves this question as well and we actually look for answers in order to find a cure, lol. I took to the net a few years back I and I remember reading different articles related to the:

“LOVE HORMONE” – Oxytocin which researchers have found plays a huge role in women and attachment after sex.

In short…Both men and women release this hormone during sexual orgasm but for some unknown reason, a women release a higher level of this hormone (straight to the brain) which then facilitates an emotional bond.

So much more to it though and still being researched but at least women don’t have to feel as if there is something WRONG with falling in love after sex…they have no control over the situation

jersee14 said...

Firstly, like it was stated earlier, how can u call someone "friend" but ur not doing things friends would do... And a lot of times the women you are sleeping with don't feel like they are just your friend....
b/c men tend say or do things that preach the opposite of her just being a f*** buddy...it the two of u have had the talk about this is just sex no more no less and she UNDERSTANDS that.. then thats how it should be.. but when u start taking her out on dates.. sending her expensive gifts whispering sweet nothings in her ear, then in her mind this is not just sex there is something more there... b/c if it was just sex then once its over leave or have her go. DONT cuddle and fill her head with thoughts making her feel like she is playing the girlfriend role... That is wrong on so many levels...so once a girl feels that connection with you it hurts her to know that you are doing that w/ multiple women and that hurt and pain turns 2 jealousy which leads 2 "I bust the windows out ur car"....
And to be honest girls are emotional just the same as men cause i know plenty of dudes who get just as jealous when then see a girl with men besides him.. So in turn he starts calling her a ho and other derogatory names.. B/c in all honesty you are just as much ho as she is.. but b/c u got money out the a** and ur a dude its ok.. but that is a whole differnt topic

Prov31_1982 said...

To be honest and I don't care what anybody says, in this regard women are sensitive individuals.No matter how much a woman makes it seem as if it's just having sex and it doesn't mean anything to her either...that's a lie. Territorial issues also come to play in this because being sexually intimate kind of opened that door for that. Men and women are truly different-God truly in his infinite wisdom made us that way. Men are physical people-not saying they lack emotions but that's not what drives them. On the other hand women are more emotional/mentally driven...we tend to care even when we really don't want to (more so than not) and that tends to trip women up in the end because women may think that they got it, emotions can be left out of having casual sex but often times this is more easier to do for men that it is for women. Just be real with yourself...that goes for men and women because it can happen the other way too. Just food for thought

Sunni Ni-Col3 said...

Let's just be honest a smart woman is always two steps ahead anything she puts her self into. The women who fall victim to the "hit it then quit it" must have been really blind to what the male was saying to her through his actions and through his words. I'm sorry but you can tell if the man "is just not that into you". As a female you really cannot stalk a male who has taken you as a "jump off" from the start, then your just crazy because you thought that you would be able to change this man. A lot of women get caught up in that fantasy of "He'll change if he wants to be with me". Now of course the man will make minor adjustments to his self but he will not change completely if it is not in him to change for YOU. Ok, so of course many have heard that women are very emotional, sorry ladies but we are! It's called ESTROGEN (lol). So knowing this, MEN DO NOT get into a strictly sexual relationship with a woman who has expressed she wants more than to be just a "fuck". That is where you get the jealous woman to react, and then that causes for slashing of tires and all the "Thin Line Between Love and Hate" actions to take place. Know what you are getting into and if you think they know what you want, explain it to them before you get yourself entangled in a big emotional mess! It takes communication, seriously, whether or not if you are emotionally attracted to that person or if it's just sexual. PLEASE COMMUNICATE! Until next time, Live Long, Live Well, and Live Blessed.. I'm OUT...
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Cedric said...

Question: Why are you sleeping with women that don't belong to you? When you treat a women like she is "the one", then that's what she is going think. GOD didn't wire women to be like that. Bottom-line is this: STOP TRYING TO TURN A WOMEN INTO A HO...that's why we got ho's!

jessiehmckinnon said...

All of this is so true. Once, I heard a man say "The thing with girls is that they need to make love but us, guys, we need to fuck too." He thought the jealousy and everything was due to differences between men and women, but I think it is due to a similarity between them. I mean the lack of self-confidence. Men and women just don't deal with it the same way. Men sleep with many women just to be sure tha they still are attractive or whatever, and women sleep with men thinking that they will stick by her side, that someone will finally tell her she's so special.

miss_mckinnon said...

Oh and by the way, this is only a theory of mine. But after all the disenchantment I had, I still believe in romance and true love. I ain't trying to justify why we actin like that, but maybe we need to make some mistakes before we find a man worth our love. And finally Bow, if you think every woman is a barrier to your freedom ( cheating is not in the definition of freedom though =P ) maybe you haven't found the right one yet.

joshconner11 said...

Just to keep it all the way funky, I honestly believe that no matter what u tell her, no matter how straight forward u are to her, and no matter how much she claims she understands u, When u give her that good, AND U DO HER REAL EFFING GOOD, it takes an entire new spin on errthing u said!! especially when u put it in her chest, the mind starts to go off the deep end. Maybe when u gave it to her, nobody else made her feel the way u made her feel. So she still tryna hold on to u any way she can. U cant help the way u feel. Real talk.

Black Diamond said...

I think with any relationship rather strings attached or not. You have to know thy self and keep it real with your self and others.If your not ready to be in a committed relationship you have to state that from the jump! Know your expectations.

Tell her "look your not my girl, I'am not your man. This thing we got is strictly sex nothing more nothing less." And fellas when you say this mean it and treat it as such. You mess up when you start treating her like she's your "girlfriend."

Let me break it down. You start winnen and dinnen her. Buying her gifts. Going on dates. Letting her meet all your friends. Letting her meet your mom.Letting her crash at your place all the time and spend the night.Tounge kissing (why? brings forth to many emotions).Talking to her all the time on the phone. Calling her your baby and your boo.The most damaging thing you should never tell your "jump off" is I LOVE YOU.

You mix all that with sex. Sex was created as a way for male and women to bond,connect, become one, the first marriage act, falling inlove, our body's releases strong hormones more stronger than males. It was never created to be casual.Expecially if the sex is good.

Your doing all these things for her and to her and wonder why she's confused, becouse your doing everything with your "jump off" that you would do with your "girlfriend." Hell I would be confused to regardless of what your mouth say. Couse your giving her false hopes of her one day being your girlfriend. You may be saying it's strictly just sex but showing something totally different. When in turn my brother you may be the confused one..lol..you may really like her for real, and just wanna have your cake and eat it too. So what I say to this grow the F**K up Bow! Get your self a real women and stop F**K**G with these H**S! Man up Boo!! (And I'm not being mean just keeping it 100 and giving you some tuff love)

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Janet said...

It goes both ways (dudes get jealous to)....buttt yea, the female wasnt being real about what she wanted and it bothers her, plan and simple.... honestly, if she met you in the club, she shoulda left you there or took it for what it was. Cuz we all know that theres a %1 chance that you'll find love in the club...most people jus wanna make love in the club lol

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Pretty Brown Eyes* said...

this is a food of thought men get jel womoan get jel i dont think sex would make me jeaulous that would be if i have feelings for you thats the only thing that would make somebody look at you in a weird way when they see you..lol its funny bc some men dont show their emotions little do men know emotions mean everything but i personally if we goin to have sex and just sex its no feelings their we both have to be on the same page when the other half wants to kno bout your wherebouts then thats when they caught some feelings women will show it guys will hide it men you cant be hard all the time consider your self a GANSTER&GENTLEMEN thats how i put it anybody can catch feelings having sex the girl mite want a relationship or the dude mite want a main join this is a good topic bc this shit happens in everyday life.BLAME THE HORMONES..LOL

Retro_Kidd said...

Wow Not All Women Are Like That

Kia said...

Truthfully speaking most women will never feel comfortable just "sexing" a man and those that say they're cool about really just do it in hopes that you will see the she's "different" or the one for you. Men need to understand that women move strictly off of emotions and we tie sex into our emotions. Some of the time it could just start off as a "sexing" thing but our emotions will create a facade of a relationship. Its kind of confusing and most men will never understand because half of the time we women don't understand it.

Tamakia said...

I feel that you need to know what u stand with a female to let her know the deal just plain and simple then also woman should know most men are looking for a hype for that day


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Jamzisfly said...

I would say jealousy is the biggest issue in that situation. Obviously if its just a sex thing we know our place and know that your most probably seeing other people, but no girl really wants to see a guy they’ve slept with out and about with other girls. Personally if it was to happen to me, i would feel slightly stupid, like im just another one of his many sex buddyie smh.

Pynkstar33 said...

After you get older you understand that yes sometimes it is just a sex thing. But I think ppl should be open and honest by expressing that we are just having sex. Which means I don't wanna see you again. Lo. I think its funny when women try to act all territorial with a man who doesn't want them. Some women and maybe some men, actually confuse sex with relationship, but that is no longer the case.

sexylilwhit88 said...

Women tend to wear their heart on their sleeves which is why you will always know that their jealous. Men get jealous too but their good at hiding their emotions which is why you will never know that their jealous. Men Also, have this habit of leading women on and not realizing it. Any little sign of affection or emotion will make the woman think that you care. What men fail to realize is that women can have just a sexual relationship but some women don't want that which is why you have to put it out there immediately. You can't have sex with a woman and then after tell them you just want it to be a sexual thing.

LilMissAlex said...

WOW. Good question. My last blog post asked one similar "Why do men lie?"

Women may not get as mad if men would just be honest. Keep it gully. If you're just sexing the female, don't treat her like your girlfriend. And when she asks if you're talking to other females, be honest about it!

Honesty! That sure would help most of us....

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Just Sayin... said...

I have a question to that....have you heard of HIV/STDs? First off sex is something that should be shared between 2 people who, if not love each other, at least care for each other in some facet. You can't just sleep with a girl like you're changing socks....then when you pop up with a positive test result you want to blame her. BE RESPONSIBLE. You're supposedly a grown man sticking and licking everything cute and juicy that comes your way but let a baby pop up and see how "grown" you behave. It REALLY saddens me to see a young black man with talent (however disputable it may be) and the power to be a good force in a people's lives choose to be socially irresponsible and wreckless. First you drink and drive then tweet about it now you're promoting sexual promiscuity? I think I understand why you're popularity and record sales have declined. But let me not go off on a tangent down-talking another black man...but damn SHAD get your sh*t together dude...sad....smdh

l0velybre20 said...

Men go around sending mixed signals, making a girl feel like shes more than what she really is. Then when she leave they want to go about things like shes just a booty call, but shes left feeling confused like mayb things are turning into something more. Men need to learn how to be upfront and then there wouldnt be no issues.

ke_kata_koeia said...

Most of the comments mostly alike .. girl are emotional/sensitive/easily swayed/attached after sex like who doesn't agree!! you should understand the situation since you're having sex with them.. reverse the story and make it a girl version ! you liked her but she had no feeling for u but during that time you had sex ( your thiking wow she's hot in bed an you'd like too see her again but she thinks it's only for today) would you not feel anything ?? then she goes around chatting up guys and your standing there like wtf dum bitch !! you've known her for 2years .. wouldn't you try and stop her..
bow have you not experienced love ?? it's understandable that your 22 and just want too have fun and not be tied down but chose your sex partners wisely cause they can be a lil koo koo in the head lol

To me i wouldn't really care i'd be thinking wtf did i have sex in the first place if we both don't feel the zappp !

mimose said...

Why are you willing to ( have sex) share yourself something so intimate when someone you can careless about?

keyonkerz said...

Me and one of my homeboy's was talking about this earlier. Dudes have the tendency of just saying they are fucking a girl but treating her like she is the wife. I call it adding relationship incentives to a fuck buddy situation. Very rarely will a female really and truely just want to fuck a dude and when you cuddle and shop and introduce her to people that leaves a nugget of hope that you two can be something more.

Bridget said...

Plain and simple to ease misinterpertation...let the point be made at the very start. If it is just sex i.e- NSA then that's what it is. No drama. If you bring drama you will in fact get drama.

BheartJ said...

Ok here's the issue, Men will say just about any and everything to get in your pants, I've heard all the BS before, I love you, I want to be with you, I'll take you here & there WAKE UP LADIES! this is what they call game!! Women do get attached quicker then men but once again that's bc of the crap they feed us! Just be honest man it's not hard tell her Hey I'm tryin to F*CK see what she says you actually might be surprised....

aquanjprincess1 said...

When Females have sex, we secret a chemical, that causes us to have feelings for a man due to our sexual connection. its not that we dont know that the guy gives to craps about us. ITs like PMS, it just happens. I did a study on this lol. happy im not the jealous type. but yea we have all seen it. and ladies need to stop dropping their panties just because a guy thinks their cute. have more respect for yourself as a guy, not to just sleep with any chick. and chicks just cause the guy has a little going for himself doesnt mean you will too. Your sittig on the sidelines of his dream and will always be a JUMPOFF

Jonnelle said...

She came into the situation with other motives. She figured that although she agreed to just be friends... That was her "in" and you would like her soo much that the agreement would be void. And you two could be more than just friends. I reccommend you reading Echart Tolle's Power of the Now... His section on relationships is really good. It breaks down everything. But Bow, You have to be 100%. And if theres any hesitation. You should really pass on the sex because it will save you a HUGE headache in the end.

nataforya said...

Well.... what men fail to realize is that just because you had sex with a woman, although she is a willing participant, 9 times out of 10, she might think it could lead to something else. Sex is not just SEX to women and that's what yall need to realize it. It's not difficult at all to comprehend. Did you tell her she was just a fuck? If the answer is NO, then how does she have the insight to know that that was all you wanted? If dudes didn't play so many games and just would come out and be honest about what they want, we could get along. I don't see where women are the difficult ones if you just expect her to know it was just a hump? We are jealous by nature so why are u gonna be an asshole and hug up on another bitch when you just fucked this other woman last night and u KNEW she'd be there? I don't get that.

Dollie Rae said...

Greetings:
I saw your question on Bossip.
Here is my response:
I think it has everything to do with the way women and men are socialized to think about gender roles. Think about it right, girls are taught to take care of things (possess them really) meanwhile boys are taught to repress emotion ("Stop cryin!") and to manipulate objects to figure out what they like(physical contact sports, video games and even language to a certain extent). Then adding in the layer of sex, once again men and women are socialized to think of it in opposing ways; hence your problem. Men are generally taught to enjoy the now and think of the consequences later ("We'll cross that bridge when we get to it"). On the other hand, girls are taught to treasure their V-card and that the first time just like the next times should be special. Additionally, as a man you are inserting yourself into a woman; a woman is opening herself to you and receiving you. Unless this woman has emotional issues stemming from sexual abuse then it is perfectly healthy for a woman to overreact when she sees you moving on; especially if it is soon after having intercourse. What most girls don't get (and what I have to explain to my friends on the regular) is that sex is not the way to man's heart, so if the lady was quick to give it up then she's lost the majority of her pull-she's not special anymore; especially if she is dealing with a guy in between 15-25 years young. It's bad to assume but most guys are just learning what they like and what they don't like in a woman through their partners; this is healthy. Whereas, girls are trying to fall in love with the first guy they meet and have to learn the hard way.
The bottom line is that Girl A, whoever you're referring to, is a healthy young lady because she did react and it just proves that she likes you and thought something was there. If she didn't have some feelings for you she probably would not have had sex with you (but you are a celebrity, so you NEVA know, lol).
If I were you, I wouldn't stress it. She likes you but may be you don't want to commit-she should understand that. But you should also be open to hear her vent. After venting she'll back off, gain closure, forgive you and will/should move on. So if you are man enough to listen to the aftermath, she should be woman enough to "keep it pushin'" with no hard feelings.
Hope this helps and good luck with your future romances.
XOXOXOXO
-LOLO

Elene said...

I don't know where you clowns get off at, thinking you all is suppose to get ours goods, and second later, you all act like we don't exsit. If you get my goods, whether you like it or not,I consider you my boyfriend, and I will act accordingly. Don't get it twisted. you is not going to disrepect me by having another women in my face. Because I would let her know just what kind of male whore you are. Using women just to get your rocks off. And when you get with another chick you think you are going to act like you don't know me. Then. NEXT. Two can play that game. Women you need to scandalized those low life bastards name. Do not let him use you for his purpose. Expose them for the low life they are. I don't like the game, because the game is vicious, but when you bring it to me. We both can do this. And I win all the time. Tick- Tock, YOU CLOWNS

urbanista said...

It's basically very simple:
To women sex is something emotional. If they gonna have sex with you, if they claim they dont have a problem just being your sex partner for the night, they actually do. but are afraid to tell the truth because they fear the guy would just stand up and leave (them). So out of that fear they sleep with the guy hoping that his feelings might change by having sex once and thus get mad when they see the guy in the club talking to some other girl because she tought they had something that would lead into more. As long as sex is something emotional to women things will never change. to men it's just sex, it doesnt necessarily have anything to do w/emotions.

Cherie M said...

Don't mess with her anymore then.."ON TO THE NEXT.."She knew what she was getting herself into before she met you..or atleast had an idea..The dog is off his leash and like's to roam.. :)..I get that.

Kara Craig said...

I think that many women will like a man for a long time before he even notices her, so one day when he finally does, he sleeps with her, and she is feeling special and excited because she thinks he's really into her, finally... She gets a lil possessive, thinking that you two have something goin on...but it turns out she were just another number on his long list of sex partners. the end !

Brandi said...

Maybe if guys didn't lie so much, there would be no problem. Just be honest from the jump! We're adults, we can handle it!

And when did being sensitive become a bad thing? Everyone is sensitive. You're human.

synnebecher said...

you are Bow Wow, the ladies fall in love with you just by looking at you. We want something from you, and when we get some we want more. Then we realize that we can't get it, and we get jealous.. that's just how we are.
It is not your fault as long as you tell the truth

Mônica Pinheiro said...

In first place, not all women are jealous and possessive as you say. When it comes to relationships, men can be as possessive as women, or more. But there's something quite singular in women behaviour which is: they usually fantasize about being THE woman that will change the man, and that will make him settle down.Anyway, with women there's always involves high expectations.Second, With men, it's more about the phisical conquest, I guess. But, honestly, in your case, they might be a little more exaggerated.After all, you are a public person, a celeb...so they really want to achieve this conquest, right?.But try not to overreact.I guess you have to make it clear that...is one night stand.(Some will understand, some will feel flatered, others will be satisfied just with that, and there are others that will hate you and cry).That is real.

amanda said...

Your just messing with the wrong girls. This is how it is for me, I can have sex w/ a guy and just not give a f*** sex is just that sex don't mean we're in a realationship. But it seems like the more I don't care and treat it for what it is SEX the more attached the guy gets. This confuses me because the more I don't care the more the guys cares the more I care the less the guy cares. So it goes both ways men can become attached as well. Like I said it depends on the girl you mess w/ if u mess w/ more women that think like me (I think more like a guy) then you won't have that problem.

tezza said...

OK OK YOU LIKE TO HAVE CASUAL SEX WE DONT .....WHY LOSE OUR VIRGINITY TO U AND DEN WE C U FLIRTIN' WIV ANOTHER WOMNEN ...OR...WHY THROW OUR SELVES AT U FOR U TO SAY ''WE JUST HAD SEX THATS ALL NOW LEAVE ME ALONE!''.WE R NOT FORE THAT EITHER YOU LOVE AND RESPECT US OR U DONT GET AS MUCH SEX AS YOU COULD BE GETTIN IF U WERE NICER.I LUV U BOWWOW BUT SUM TYMES U JUST SAY THE MOST STUPID AND HURTFULL THINGS ..EVERYONE DUZ BUT YOU NEED TO THINK ABOUT IT BEFORE YOU SAY IT OR WRITE IT.SOZ BUT ITS TRUE.ALSO THINK ABOT THIS QUESTION WOULD U LIKE URR DAUGHER TO WALK AROUND AND HAVE CASUAL SEX!..I'M GUESSIN THE ANSWERS NOOOO.

Butterflies and Diamonds said...

I'll keep this short and simple. Every woman is different but most are clingy and territorial. If you don't define what it is, you are leaving it to imagination, which we all know runs wild and makes people do the darnest things. Let 'em know what it is and if they trip Oh Well, keep doing you!

fatboifunny said...

To me its about knowing who you are and the type of people you want around you. When you don't realize a stiuation between people for what it is then you have an issue you havent resolved for yourself. And that't why women try to take a role of girlfriend with a man because they had sex in their mind they didn't intend on being what society likes to label as loose, or sluty, or hoish. Its just not supposed to be lady like to do that so they work hard to change it into what they wanted so other people wont talk mess about them. At the end of the day your a human who enjoyed the company of another and thats all that mattered own up to your actions because people will show you who they are with their words, actions, and friends they keep.

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